How To Combat Seasonal Depression | 9 Ways to Better Manage Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

‘Tis the season for seasonal depression and you’re certainly not the only one feeling it. Many people get the winter blues when the weather turns and it’s not uncommon to feel extra down this time of year. Luckily, I’ve got your back and have a few tips and tricks to fight that seasonal depression when it comes around. 

Get Cozy : Hygge

My least favorite thing about winter is the cold. Being cold makes my body tense and feeling tense is the least relaxing thing in the world. Being cozy is super relaxing, though, and the best time to get cozy is during the winter. The Danes use the word hygge to describe the coziness of the season. To embody hygge, let the cold be an excuse to stay inside and relax after a long year. Allow yourself to rest and restore your energy. Buy some warm clothes and fuzzy socks to keep away the cold. Cuddle up with a blanket and a fun book. Light a candle and put on some soothing music. Do whatever feels warm and comforting to you.

Get Into Your Senses : Mindfulness

We often find ourselves with more free time on our hands in the winter because most of us spend less time outside the house when it’s cold. This can cause us to get in our heads even more than we usually do, which can exacerbate any anxiety and/or depression we’re already feeling. Instead of ruminating on the past or worrying about the future with that free time, try tuning in to the present with mindfulness by getting into your senses. Do something that engages only one of your senses or do something that engages all of your senses. Put on some essential oils, listen to ASMR, meditate, pet something fuzzy or furry, pay attention to all the flavors in your food. When you’re focused on the sensations you’re experiencing in the present, you don’t give your mind the time or space to spiral further into your depression.

Get Into Your Body : Stretch, Dance, Yoga, Massage

Another thing you can do to get out of your head is to get in to your body. Some people have a hard time with this one because they have negative beliefs about being in their body, but I’m telling you, if you can embrace your body and feel your body, it’s one of the most magical feelings in the world. Stretching was the catalyst that got me back into my body and I have raved about it ever since because of the wonderful feelings it’s led me to. If you don’t stretch, I’d strongly recommend it. You’ll realize your body has been trying to communicate with you by sending you aches, pains, and discomforts. Your body wants to be moved and touched. You’re allowed to move and touch it in whatever way feels good to you. Stretch, dance, practice yoga or give yourself a massage! It’s amazing how good you can make yourself feel just by loving on your body a little.

Get Light : Vitamin D

If the sun is shining, try to get outside! We need Vitamin D and many people are Vitamin D deficient during the wintertime. If you can’t bear the cold or the sun isn’t shining, try getting some Vitamin D supplements or invest in a Happy Light to supplement for sunshine.

Get Some Responsibilities : Plants Or A Pet

It’s easy to stay cozy in bed all day when it’s freezing outside and you don’t have any responsibilities to tend to, but staying in bed all day will likely make your depression worse. How do you feel when you realize it’s 5pm and you’re still in your pajamas in bed, not having moved all day except to get food or go to the bathroom? Yeah, usually not great. If you have things to take care of like plants or pets, you’re forced to get yourself out of bed to take care of these living things! And then you know what usually happens? You realize that the plant looks happier when you give it the nutrients it needs and the dog jumps for joy when he gets to move his body around outside. And then you realize you’re happier when you do these things, too. So you begin to take care of yourself as well.

Get Out Of The House : Find Events Around Town

If I spend too long in my house, I begin to feel trapped. It’s good to get out and about and there are tons of holiday events you can go to around town if you need to escape your home. Check out Facebook events for things going on around town or join a group on Meetup.com to make new friends and/or try new activities.

Get Social : Invite Friends Over For Cozy Nights In

Too many people neglect their social life in the winter months. People really don’t like getting out in the cold, but isolating ourselves from our friends for a whole season is much worse than exposing ourselves to the cold every once in a while. But if you really can’t stand the thought of getting out of the house, make the fun come to you! Plan a board game night, host a wine and paint event with the girls, cook dinner with friends, bake holiday cookies with your neighbors, or throw a holiday party with fancy drinks. Just get some friends over to your house and have yourselves a good old time.

Get A New Hobby : Cooking, Baking, Crafting, Music-Making

‘Tis the season for indoor hobbies! Print out those Pinterest recipes and craft instructions, head to your local grocery and/or craft store, and get to cooking (or crafting). Almost all of my hobbies have been born out of winter boredom and I’m so thankful when winter is in full force because it always reminds me to get back in touch with my creative side. I often neglect my ukulele and crafts throughout the year, but come winter, we reunite with a passion. There’s really nothing like the flow you get into when you’re being creative. Creative flow is also the pinnacle of mindfulness for me. Get into your flow with a new hobby.

Get Therapy : Talking To Someone Can Help

Sometimes you need more than just some stretching and a new hobby to get you out of your funk. Maybe it’s not coping skills you’re lacking… maybe it’s a pain or hurt you haven’t yet dealt with rising back up or a loss you haven’t grieved coming back around. Therapy can help you process through these things and find some healing from your pain. If you’ve never tried it, I’d highly recommend it!

In the Lexington, KY area and interested in starting therapy? Book an appointment with me! Not in the Lexington area but wanting to start therapy and not sure where to look? Check out my blog post on how to choose a therapist

Productivity Anxiety : It’s Okay To Relax

What is your experience in stillness like?

Finish this sentence: If I spend all day not being productive, I’m _______. For me, it’s ‘wasting my time’. For others, it’s ‘a lazy piece of shit’. For some, it’s ‘heaven’. I don’t know what it is for you, but the idea of productivity has been coming up a lot lately, so I wanted to spend some time talking about it.

We need rest to be productive

We live in a very goal-oriented society that runs on busyness and productivity. Nothing inherently wrong with productivity, I think it can make us feel great and move us towards a better life oftentimes. But with anything, moderation is key. When we become obsessive about productivity, that’s when it becomes a problem. We can’t always be productive because we need rest to be productive. We can’t be productive without rest; we need both in tandem. So if you struggle with allowing yourself to rest, let’s reframe rest as an essential part of productivity. Rest is helping you get on your way to being productive.

Think about how productive you are on little sleep… not very productive, right? You’re distracted, you’re exhausted, you’re stretched for resources. But for some reason it seems different when it comes to other restful activities. Allowing ourselves to take a twenty minute stretch break, an hour to walk through the park, ten minutes to practice meditation, or five minutes to play with our dog may seem frivolous or unhelpful towards our goals for productivity, but just like you need sleep to do anything remotely productive, you also need restful things throughout your day to help your brain and body be in the right state to move towards anything productive.

An inability to rest leads to stress, frustration, and anxiety

Otherwise, you’re most likely going to be stressed, frustrated, and anxious as fuck all day trying to go from one ‘productive activity’ to the next without any rest. That’s how I get anyways. I love to-do lists and I think they really help me stay focused/be productive, but sometimes I feel like my life turns into one big productivity checklist and I can’t rest until everything has been checked off the list. I move from one productive task to the next and tell myself I’ll rest or do something fun when I get done with all of it. If I can just finish everything on the list today, I’ll rest tomorrow. But I know the list will never be completed, there will always be more productive things to accomplish, and life is not a checklist. I still stand by to-do lists because otherwise I’d forget everything important that I need to do, but to-do lists don’t need a due date. You’ll get to them when you get to them.

Practicing mindfulness around what we’re doing can lead to restful productivity

To-do lists often feel like ‘have-to-do’ rather than ‘get-to-do’ lists. Imagine reframing: I have to do the laundry, mop the floors, water the garden, grocery shop, and meal prep today to I get to do the laundry, mop the floors, water the garden. grocery shop, and meal prep today. How can you reframe it in your mind but also how can you physically reframe the activity? Reframe these things in your mind by practicing gratitude for the responsibilities and privileges you are afforded (i.e. a house, a garden, the ability to buy and cook food, etc.). Reframe these things physically by making them more fun and restful. It’s hard to enjoy folding laundry or mopping floors when you’re rushing through these activities just trying to get through your checklist. It’s easier to enjoy folding laundry or mopping floors if you’ve got some music jamming in the background and allow yourself to dance around while you clean things up. It’s hard to enjoy watering your garden when you’re focused on all the things you need to get done after you water your garden. It’s easier to enjoy watering your garden when you allow yourself to be immersed in it’s beauty and stop to linger at the new life you see. It’s hard to enjoy grocery shopping and meal prepping when we feel stretched for time to do these things. It’s easier to enjoy grocery shopping and meal prepping when we give ourselves the time we need to do these things.

Productivity anxiety saps our energy, creativity, and spontaneity

Life isn’t a checklist and life doesn’t need to be rushed through. Sure, maybe you save 5 minutes here or there by rushing through folding laundry or hustling through the grocery store. Amazing, maybe you have 15 more minutes at night that you can use to zone out to Netflix with (since you’re clearly too exhausted and stretched to do anything but mind-numb at the end of the day). Making life a to-do list and rushing through this to-do list saps our energy, our creativity, and our spontaneity. It leaves us with nothing at the end of the day except a feeling of mild accomplishment and major exhaustion. Slowing down, reframing our ‘have-to-do’s’ to ‘get-to-do’s’, and allowing room for fun and creativity in our day is essential to quieting our anxious minds. It’s okay to relax. Relaxing is not a waste of time. Relaxing does not make you a lazy piece of shit. It makes you healthy and calm and more fun to be around. Give yourself a break from the productivity anxiety and find ways to add rest to every part of your day.

Struggling with more anxious thoughts than you can handle on your own? Schedule a counseling appointment with me to talk it out!

How Can Mindfulness Help With Eating Disorders?

Eating Disorders are rooted in disconnection from the body

So at this point, you might be sick of me harping on mindfulness and how it can be helpful for whatever you’re going through… but I truly believe it can! Today I’m going to be talking about a few mindfulness practices that can be especially helpful for eating disorders. Eating disorders are rooted in a disconnection from the body and appetite, so mindfulness can help get us back into connection with these things and can help us get curious about why we’ve gotten out of connection with these things in the first place.

With eating disorders and disordered eating, we tend to ignore our bodies’ messages to us. Our bodies tell us we’re hungry and we tell them not now. Our bodies tell us we’re satisfied but we tell them not yet. Our bodies tell us we need to rest but we tell them to push through the workout. Constantly ignoring your body’s messages will get you to a point where you start to lose connection with your body’s messages. You might even lose your ability to recognize your body’s hunger and fullness cues.

Mindfulness Practice 1: Body scan to connect back to the body

One great way to get connected back to your body is through a body scan. A body scan is a practice where you move your awareness from the top of your body down to the bottom (or vice versa), focusing on different parts of the body and observing what’s going on in each part of the body without attaching any meaning or judgment to what you experience. It’s easy to move to judging the different parts of your body and the sensations you feel in your body, but with a body scan, you simply observe what’s happening and get curious about it. There’s plenty of body scan scripts and videos you can find online, but check out my guided body scan here. When you can recognize how your body feels and get curious about what this might mean, you can gain greater awareness around what it needs and what it might be lacking.

Mindfulness Practice 2: Mindful Eating or Intuitive Eating

Another helpful practice for eating disorders is mindful/intuitive eating. Read more about mindful and intuitive eating. Practicing intuitive eating and mindfulness around your food habits can help you recognize and challenge some of the disordered thoughts and behaviors you might have around food and your body. It will also help you to gain awareness around how certain foods make you feel and what your body actually needs from you to thrive. If you can put this information to use, you can feel so much better in the body you’re in, whatever size it may be!

Mindfulness Practice 3: Journaling about beliefs around food and body

Journaling can be super helpful for raising awareness around our deep-rooted beliefs. I encourage everyone who is struggling with disordered eating or an eating disorder to dig in to some of their beliefs around food and their body. Journal about your beliefs around food; what does it mean if you eat certain foods? Journal about your beliefs around your body; what would it mean if you were in a smaller or larger body than the one you’re in now? Write down any memories or thoughts that come up in relation to these beliefs and figure out where they came from. Then challenge them! Are they true? Does eating a certain food make you unwise or unhealthy or gross? Does gaining weight make you unlovable or unattractive? What makes it so hard for you to give up these beliefs?! Processing through this is tough, but it can be so rewarding in your relationship with food and your body!

There can be a lot to process around these things since eating is something you’ve been doing your whole life and your body is somewhere you’ve been living your whole life. If you need extra support processing through these things, book a counseling appointment with me!

How Can Mindfulness Help With Addiction?

In my last post I talked about the what and why of addiction. Recap: addictions are destructive thought or behavior patterns people engage in mindlessly to escape reality and find some kind of temporary relief from pain. Today I want to talk about mindfulness: how it can help us be present and find alternative ways of dealing with our reality so that we no longer have to turn to our addictions for relief from pain.

Mindfulness basics

Mindfulness is basically just practicing awareness in the present moment without judgment. Mindfulness is key in overcoming addiction. First of all, you can’t change a thought or behavior pattern if you aren’t mindful/aware of it; you have to understand that you are engaging in these patterns that aren’t serving you before you can change them.

Identifying your addiction

If you’re already aware of the addictions you struggle with in your life, skip to the next paragraph. If not, here are some useful questions to ask yourself to identify addictions in your own life:

• What thought or behavior patterns do I engage in that cause me to feel good in the moment but which cause me a lot of grief/pain/guilt/shame in the long run?

• What thoughts or behaviors do I turn to in times of high stress or emotion?

• How do I distract or numb myself from my reality?

Consider these questions and notice your thoughts and behaviors in times of high stress or emotion. Don’t judge or criticize yourself for the thoughts that come into your head during these moments or the actions you take as a result of high stress or emotion, just get curious and observe. You are not bad for engaging in these thoughts or behaviors; you are coping with life the best way you know how. You may learn new coping skills that work better for you down the line, but right now you are just trying to learn more about yourself.

How mindfulness combats addiction

When we can become more mindful of the mindless ways we respond to stress, emotion, and reality, we gain the realization that we have a choice in the way we respond. Sometimes it feels like we have no control over our addictions, but this is because our addictions have become mindless habits for us. We feel pain, we seek pleasure. It takes courage and a lot of work to break a habit, especially one that brings temporary relief from pain. To break a habit, we must first ask ourselves why we are having the thought to engage in the habit. Observe the emotions you feel when you feel triggered to engage in your addiction: stress, depression, anger, anxiety, fear, loneliness, etc. Get curious about these feelings and your reactions to these feelings.

Ask yourself how engaging in your addiction could help with these feelings. Observe what comes up, maybe it’s, “you wouldn’t have to deal with your feelings of loneliness if you got some more heroin” or “you won’t have to think about all the stress you’re dealing with if you just eat those cookies” or “you will finally be worthy of love and acceptance if you exercise for just one more hour.” We don’t judge these thoughts; we get curious about them. We ask ourselves if our thoughts are true. We reality check and question if engaging in this thought or behavior will really solve our ultimate problem. We wonder if there are any other ways of dealing with our problem.

By observing and getting curious about the thoughts that trigger us to engage in our addictions, we find that these thoughts are just thoughts; they are not necessarily true and they do not necessitate an action from us. We can have these thoughts without them controlling us and this helps them to lose their power over us. We recognize that they are not always the best solution to our problems and we find that maybe there are better ways of coping with our reality.

Learn more about mindfulness & addiction recovery in a therapy session with me.

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What is Intuitive Eating? 10 Steps to Mindful & Intuitive Eating

Ditching diet culture

It’s so difficult to maintain a healthy relationship with food in our culture where dieting is the norm and avoiding certain foods is seen as a good or wise thing to do. We’re taught to feel shame if we indulge in certain foods and learn to resent the bodies we have because of our indulgences. We listen to how culture tells us to eat rather than listening to our bodies because we don’t trust that we know what we need. We restrict ourselves from certain foods, set goals for our food intake, and then berate ourselves when we eat the food we promised ourselves we’d stay away from. This is diet culture and it’s super toxic.

We need food and eating food makes us feel good but somehow we’ve demonized food in our culture. There are certain foods that are bad and you should feel guilty if you eat them. To that I’d say if you stole the food you feel guilty about eating, I’ll allow you to feel guilty. Otherwise, the guilt is a little unnecessary don’t you think?

There’s no reason to feel guilty about something you ate. If you ate it and it made you feel bad physically, you’re already suffering enough. If you ate it and it made you feel good physically, your body is happy with the sacrifice you’ve given it and there’s no reason to feel bad. When we can practice mindfulness around how the food we eat affects our body, we are better able to fuel our body so it can help us meet our needs.

What is mindful eating?

I think people complicate the term mindfulness; think of mindfulness simply as being aware and intentional. You’re eating an orange? Mindful eating would require you to be aware of the orange: it’s flavor, texture, and smell. It would require you to think about the orange’s journey to you and all the hands required to get the food into your body: the farmer, the shipper, the grocery store worker. You would practice gratitude for those hands and for the food itself. You would think about how the food will nourish you and enable you to do the things you love. You would not label the orange as good or bad and you would not judge yourself as good or bad for eating the orange. You would chew slowly and savor the flavor. You would stop eating when your body tells you to, not when the portion you served yourself is gone. Those are the basics: practicing awareness and gratitude around food, thinking about the source and purpose of food, not judging the experience of eating, and listening to your body in regards to it’s needs for food.

What is intuitive eating?

Intuitive eating incorporates mindfulness into it’s principles but also focuses heavily on ditching diet culture and cultivating respect for your body. The focus of intuitive eating is in transforming your relationship with food and your body as our culture often causes our relationship to these things to be pretty poor.

10 Steps to Mindful & Intuitive Eating

Eat when you’re hungry

Hunger is the body’s way of telling us that we’re lacking sustenance. If you try to fight off hunger, you will end up at the refrigerator at midnight gorging on whatever you can get your hands on because your body will be in famine mode. Your body is just trying to survive and hunger is it’s way of letting you know it needs something more than you’re giving it!

Honor your feelings without using food

A lot of times we eat for reasons other than hunger, so we have to learn how to stop chewing our worries and pain. Ask yourself why you’re turning to food and what purpose it’s serving for you. Are you eating because you’re bored? Sad? Angry? Stressed? Food might not be the best way to deal with these emotions; take action to really address your body’s messages of discomfort/pain rather than distracting your body with temporary pleasure.

Respect and practice gratitude for your food

Think about where it came from and how it got to your plate. Acknowledge all the hands it took to bring this nourishment to your body. Remind yourself that it’s a privilege to have access to an abundance of food and respect food for the miracle that it is.

Set the table before eating

Okay, so you don’t actually need to set the table, but you do need to metaphorically set the table.  Make time for the meal. Sit down to eat. Relax. Breathe. Get yourself in the right headspace to properly experience the meal.

Enjoy your food!

Don’t be thinking about the ten thousand other things going on in your life and don’t allow any outside distractions (phone, TV, work) while eating. Think about the food you’re putting into your mouth. You have to eat, so you might as well enjoy it!

Eat slowly

Chew your food and put your utensils down between bites. Notice how your body changes with each bite. Pay attention to how your body responds to different foods. Recognize when your body has had enough.

Respect your body!

Give it what it needs! And stop giving it what it doesn’t need! Listen to what it’s telling you and respond appropriately. If your body tells you it needs more of something (food, exercise, rest, etc.), give it that! If it tells you it’s had enough, honor that! Your body is not a machine and it’s needs are always changing. Honor your body and it’s needs.

Eat (mostly) for nourishment

Food is nourishment for your body. Think about what foods give your mind and body the energy and strength they need to thrive and choose food based on these factors. 

But stop labeling and judging your food

If a food makes you feel good physically and mentally, stop labeling it as bad! When we set certain foods or food groups as off-limits and restrict our access to them, this makes us want them more! When we allow ourselves to freely eat the foods that make us feel good, we’ll stop gorging on ‘restricted’ food.

And please stop labeling and judging your eating habits as good or bad

We must get out of the diet mentality and stop judging our ‘performance’ around food. If you want to indulge in dessert, do it! This doesn’t make you bad and it isn’t a moral failure. If you continue to judge your eating habits as good or bad, you will continue the cycle of guilt and shame you feel after indulging or eating a ‘forbidden food’.

Interested in starting therapy to begin healing your relationship with food and your body? Shoot me an email or book an appointment with me. Know somebody else who could benefit from this information? Send it to them!